It’s great that you’re taking baby steps to make it known to your family. It takes great courage and i admire all those who actually came out to their family about being gay.

I must admit, i do not have the guts to tell my parents about my preference. In fact, i’m so good in playing straight that (i think) no one would think i’m gay… lol! Even my gay friends probably have no idea about it.

The closest thing I’ve ever told my parents that is a little related to being gay is “I’m not getting married, so i’m adopting a kid at 28″… and they totally freaked. I banged the issue a few times to them, and they came to accept that i ‘may not’ marry… but they still did not place the possibility that i could be gay…

i’m not ashamed, but i know my parents would be extremely disappointed. They do not have anything against PLU, but funny thing is, their kids can’t be gay

Being the only daughter, in certain things, my parent’s happiness far exits mine. I will not keep this to myself forever, it’s tiring and crappy coz i cant build a relationship like this… I just need to wait for a good opportunity to raise the issue… maybe when my bro gets married coz they’ll be overjoyed at that time… lol…

Anyway, hope everyone will have it smooth breaking the news to our loved ones…

There are more accepting and loving parents around than many people think. I told my parents when I was about 16 (ages ago), and it took some time for them to get used to it, but I’m sure your mom will survive

Hey – it might even be a positive turn in your parent-child relationship – I mean being your mom she’s bound to have noticed that your hiding something. Maybe telling her will be a proof of trust…

Whatever happens remember that there’re many people out there who share your qualms and that you’re not alone Good luck!

I have only a handful of gay friends, and lots and lots of straight friends I made when I am still oblivious to my own preference.

Even though it seems cowardly, I would rather die than tell my parents I like girls. I thought that if I stayed overseas long enough (I have been in the US for 2 years), I would feel more open and comfortable about coming out of the closet but that’s not the case. I am still uncomfortable to let most people see who I really I am.

It’s an ongoing journey to completely be comfortable with who I am.

Now I wouldn’t quite agree that with you that the only thing ‘unordinary’ about us is that we’re not straight, because that would be tantamount to saying that we’re not normal. And you know how people like us feel when the straight folk throw us the ‘why can’t u be normal?’ sentence. I’d reckon that we’re the same, we’re all very human, but we’re simply…different and more like..special. Perhaps =)

Watch out for more stories from this in-the-closet-but-with-the-doors-open-andro, as she rambles on about her ‘closet business’. (she has lots to say mind you) haha.

cheers!

To me, I am just the ordinary person living my ordinary life. The only thing that is not ordinary with me is the fact that I am not straight. Other than that, i live my life just like the rest of the world, going to work, spend time with friends and family, etc.

Like you, i only have a couple of gay friends and most of the people i mixed with are straight who don’t know my actual sexual orientation. I am not sure how my friends will react if they know the truth. So, i did not tell them. But then, just like my parents, they do try to match me with their single guy friends and i have to come up with all sort of excuses to decline. It is rather easy to deal with when I was still single, but things got a bit complicated after I am in a serious relationship with a girl. It was then that i started thinking of telling them the truth.

It took me nearly 20 years to come out. Now my closest friends know that I am gay and they accepted me and my gf. It feels good. Telling my parents about my true self however, will remain to be a dream which I dont know when will come true.

You are right by taking baby steps. Do it when you are really comfortable and ready to do so. Good luck!

do you let ppl know your name, your talents, your age, your dog’s name or are all things secret unto the world ? why do we banish something as natural and inherent as if its something to be ashamed about. personally, accepting oneself as being gay, and not “being gay”, is about living with a little more honesty and a little less hypocrisy.

god bless.