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Living in Public: Danah Boyd on Social Networks

Posted on 29 January 2009 by lainie

Academic / activist Danah Boyd is known for her research and talks on social networking sites, and her blog, apophenia. On her website, she makes an interesting note regarding her sexuality:

Although i had hooked up with girls in high school and been introduced to dyke culture through the Internet, i started really exploring what it meant to be queer in college. I never really had a “coming out” event or an emotional breakdown — it was more a process of trying to resolve the politics, the culture and my own attraction to people of different genders. I don’t think that i found a resolution, but the process led to some amazing conversations and exploration. To this day, i identify as queer and have never identified as either lesbian or bi; the former is simply not true and the latter implies a binary gender segmentation that is not true of my experiences. I very much attribute my comfortableness with my sexuality to the long nights in high school discussing the topic in IRC.

from a bitty auto-biography / a smattering of facts

I rather like the way she looks at things.  Anyway, now that we’ve established the link of Danah’s sexuality and Tilted World’s theme, let’s move on to the reason behind this post.

This video shows highlights from Danah Boyd’s talk, Living in Public: Danah Boyd on Social Networks:

“Social media expert Danah Boyd discusses how social networks like Facebook and MySpace have shifted private life into the public, resulting in a revised set of social norms”
from Fora.tv

For those who like what they see in this video, head on over to the full video of her talk, In Search of Belonging, along with discussants Susan Kish, Marc Canter.

“Private is a controlled space where you have an audience”.

For some thinking moments on the difference between our private and online personas (and I’m sure quite a few non-heterosexual people have very different images in both spaces).

I quite like the talk — any talk that states Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook) could be the Anakin Skywalker (Darth Vader) of social networking sites makes it easy for me to like :P . Er. This video has nothing directly related to sexuality, but there are issues here that you can apply for discussion.

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Book Review : Tipping the Velvet by Sarah Waters

Posted on 23 January 2009 by ana_a

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I have to say that my exposure to lesbian fiction is limited to a little over a dozen lesbian authors. But two shinning stars that pop up in my all time favorite list are – Jeanette Winterson and Sarah Waters (maybe it is something about the dreary British weather that brings the best out of lesbian fiction?).  Where reading Winterson’s works is like thumbing through a shopping mall’s plastic poster portfolio of cheap Disney knockoffs prints and finding Picasso’s original artwork, reading Sarah Waters’ works is like finding a full-blown oasis complete with lesbian egrets while stumbling through a dry hot desert. To that effect, this review is on her first published book – Tipping the Velvet. To date, Sarah Waters has written four books: Affinity(Affinity is the first book I re-read immediately after finishing because the twist in the book was that jarring and unexpected), NightWatch, Fingersmith. I believe three of them having been made to feature films – Affinity(2008), Fingersmith(2005), Tipping the Velvet (2002).  I have to admit with Tipping the Velvet, I watched the movie first before reading the novel.  The movies was so good I felt like I didn’t need to read the novel. But, I finally caved in and purchased the novel after reading all her other novels. I have to say I was not disappointed with my meager investment.  

Her writing vividly brings out characters, their emotions and their environment. Tipping the Velvet follows Nan King, a young protagonist through her journey of self-discover. Her relationships with Kitty, Diana and Florie is written in such lush detail, I feel like writing a letter of complaint to the producers of the movie for not depicting Nan for the drool-inducing butch that she was in the book.  While there are many memorable moments in the book, my favorite is when Diana related a story of the beggar and djinn to Nan the morning after their first liason. The djinn/Diana gave the beggar/Nan the choice of living in ordinary comfort for 70 years or live in pleasure for 500 days. Guess which the beggar and Nan picked? I have to admit even now, I run the same question through my head sometimes when making life decisions.  

I don’t want to give a way too much of the storyline as I strongly recommend you run to the store right now to buy all of Sarah Waters’ books. If you can only buy one book because you are such a cheapskate, get Tipping the Velvet if you like some eroticism in your lesbian fiction or Affinity if you want to get a good twist in your reading. 

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What About Homosexuality?

Posted on 18 January 2009 by Yuki Choe

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We in Malaysia are more than 30 years behind time in our understanding of what homosexuals are all about. Ask anyone from the township to the villages, and most would still tell you different definitions of it, ranging from effeminate men, transgenders, anal sex and so forth. In the cities, they believe it is some kind of deviant alternative lifestyle that involves anything between being naked with other men and other “gross factors” that always seem to pick on gays, while lesbians bear the least semblance of the homo word.

Ask the churches and mosques, and all they can think of are men lying with men with a city called Sodom along with a man called Lot (or Lut) where the story of attempted rape of angels was mistaken for a homosexual deviancy show. All the explanations to the term by them are hardly even near correct definitions to what is supposed to be just a same-sex attraction. You may just be one of most Malaysians who really do not have a clue on what is a homosexual, and do not even know whether they are “choosing” something.

You may hold on to the thought that homosexuality is some sort of a lifestyle when except for their attractions they are really no different from you. You may be a curious straight who knows surely there are more to homosexuals than meets the eye, or you may be a passing gay brother or lesbian sister who wish to know more about yourself. Because of this, we will present you with the simple ABCs on homosexuality, a crash course in the form of this video which was said to be featured off a well known documentary.

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Where is the Toilet?

Posted on 12 January 2009 by jiahuilee

Probably among some of our most common questions, “Where is the Toilet?” or “Encik, errr, kat mana tandas?”, may be questions that take somewhat longer to answer for some people. If there’s any sort of structure that reinforces the simplistic dichotomy between vagina and penis, woman and man, female and male, it’s the public toilet. If there’s any sort of way you can see how society dictates what is yes and no, it’s the smelly hancing tandas awam in schools, petrol stations, shopping complex, and in the parks.

Because you either enter the bathroom of your dictated gender or face the barrage of curses/screams/beatings from the users of the toilets. And that is a problem, isn’t it?

I’m no stranger when it comes to ignoring socially-agreed symbols on the doors of the toilet. I’ve lost count as to how many times I’ve walked into the women’s bathroom. I usually get shocked faces, rude remarks, and just a stare down. Brrrr. Cold! I had only wanted to use the bathroom – and I should have every right to choose. Seeing penises (penii?) being flopped out shamelessly over an urinal isn’t something I thoroughly enjoy. (Btw, don’t you think it’s odd that “male” toilets have urinals which speed up the peeing time, when what’s needed is to provide more cubicles in “female” bathrooms to cut the lines?)

Unfortunately, society seems quite hung up on making sure I used the toilet I’m ONLY supposed to. I don’t mind. But it’s not the same case for many people.

What if I identified as a woman? Why should other people decide who I am? Why can’t I use the toilet I’m comfortable with?

The door signs are already indicating that the toilets discriminates by what you wear (dress, no dress?) – but what does it mean? People who dress with a dress enter the one with the door sign of a person in a dress? How about people who should dress in a dress but don’t want to?

Door signs are tricky. They blur the lines between sex and gender. No one’s sure if you’re not allowed in a women’s bathroom because you don’t “look” womanly, or because you’re not woman. But then again, what is a woman? Simone de Beauvoir said something like “One is not born a woman. One becomes a woman.” What does she mean?

Ironically enough, public toilets started out being unisex and communal. We peeed together. Shat with each other over a chat about what public execution was coming up in the square next week (this was during the 1300-1400s). Both men and women.

It’s only in the mid-19th century that women’s groups began demanding for more public female spaces that toilets became gender-specific.

Probably relevant at the time, as the public sphere was only a man’s space, the toilets were divided and signs were assigned. Women got their own private space within the public male space.

However, such a move continued today only perpetuates and affirms the dichotomy between man and woman/male and female. Perhaps it’s time to call back our old gender-neutral bathrooms?

Most universities in Northern America have begun building and installing gender-neutral bathrooms, which not only provides for equal non-discriminatory access to transgenders but also to seniors and disabled – who may need someone of any sex to accompany them. And if i hear groups shouting for the safety of women and children in gender-neutral toilets, it’s probably useful to know that a sign on a door that says “Women” isn’t going to stop a predator from entering. FYI, the danger being in a gender-specific bathroom is actually more or equal to being in a gender-neutral one.

Gender-neutral bathrooms are nice because they don’t discriminate. And they don’t tell people how to act or dress in order to be able to pee comfortably. No one should tell me how I tinkle my sprinkle. Gender becomes a non-issue. Wherever you are on the spectrum, you’re welcomed.

How’s that for a New Year’s Resolution?

For more info relating to activist work pertaining the need for gender-neutral/all-gender bathrooms, consult: Peeing in Peace, a Resource Guide for Transgender Allies and Activists, a publication by the Transgender Law Center, San Francisco.

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Preparations for Tomboys & Angels Fashion Show

Posted on 09 January 2009 by lainie

As some of you may remember, an event called “Tomboys & Angels Fashion Show” was organised in The Annexe Gallery last month. The show was raging, flaming fun, and our audience had a great time.

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This is the flyer, designed by Jun Kit (who was also stylist for the show).

In conjunction with Art For Grabs Xmas Special, The Annexe Gallery presents TOMBOYS & ANGELS, a fashion show extravaganza that celebrates gender diversity and outrageous individual expressions of style. The fashion show will feature clothes, accessories and works of art from over forty Art For Grabs arts & crafts stalls, with styling and make up by a team of some of KL’s most vibrant emerging style-meisters led by Jun Kit and Ooi Ying Nee. The catwalk will be an installation that mixes politics and irreverence designed by Lainie Yeoh. From the Tomboys & Angels Fashion show Facebook event page

This is the first post of a series to show you how the show came about (I couldn’t take pictures *during* the event since I was backstage). Some photographs of the preparations before we bumped in our gear to The Annexe were taken. All pics below courtesy of Johnny Mcgeorge, taken during one of the nights we were making accessories, and trying them on for size.

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Making accessories. These colourful letters were cut out to assemble into HUGE necklaces. I have a “TOMBOY” one hanging in my room now, and I love it. And now, more photos of the organisers and friends dressing up with stuff designed for the show: jerome
Jerome Kugan, organiser. Works at The Annexe Gallery. Generally awesome and fabulous.

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Winnie Ooi (or, Ying Nee, whichever moniker you know her by), who worked very hard co-organising so the show would be a success, but fell sick a few days before the actual event. My ex-colleague for a veeeery brief time in The Nut Graph.

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Lainie Yeoh, er, that’ll be me. Am I the only one who finds it awkward to caption / pimp out myself?

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Zedeck Siew was there, and subjected to our various fancies of dressing him up with these accessories and taking photographs. Zedeck is currently my colleague at The Nut Graph (and ex-Kakiseni-colleague, and ex-housemate in Bangsar).

That’s the first run of photographs — more to come soon, of the models, make-up artists, runway  and whatever else I can find. Meanwhile, you can read the interview on Fridae.com (a website you should be familiar with): Fashion show to celebrate gender diversity in Kuala Lumpur, Dec 20

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Article 8 – a short film about KL’s LGBTIQ community

Posted on 09 January 2009 by lainie

For those who missed the screening of the short film, Article 8, about the LGBTIQ community in Kuala Lumpur, head on over and check it out.

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Above is a screencap of Article 8 (click image to go to the page).

A short film about the LGBTIQ community in KL which featured the likes of Shannon Shah, Juelie Koh and Lainie Yeoh and a few other activists and/or movers and shakers in the community here. The film was shot and edited in two weeks with the intention to submit it for the Yogyakarta LGBT Human Rights Festival next week. First screened at Lil Ladyfest, KL, Article 8 was also a response to the Fatwa against Tomboys.

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Article 8 from Elaine on Vimeo.
Produced and directed by Thilaga Sulathireh and Elaine Foster.
Edited by Azreen Madzlan.

A few Tilted World contributors are featured in this video (either through the Malaysiakini newsclip, or interviews), don’t know how many you’ll recognise :P . Also some friends from Food not Bombs KL, and my colleague at The Nut Graph, Shanon Shah.

Shanon and I both missed the launch of this film, so it’s nice to see what it looks like, wasn’t sure it would be put on the internet.

So, watch the film, let me know what you think of the issues discussed — answer the questions here if you’re so inclined, would like to hear your opinions too.

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Seattle: Gay Bars Get Ricin Threats

Posted on 08 January 2009 by pagarmerah

Republished from The Stranger.com
By Dan Savage

Eleven gay bars in Seattle received letters today addressed to the ”Owner/Manager” from someone claiming to be in the possession of ricin, a deadly poison. “Your establishment has been targeted,” the letter begins. “I have in my possession approximately 67 grams of ricin with which I will indiscriminately target at least five of your clients.”

“I felt sick when I read it,” said Carla, the owner/manager of Re-bar. “It’s so vile. It’s just hatred. It made me worry for all the other bars, and for my bartenders, and our clientele.”

According to the CDC’s website <http://www.bt.cdc.gov/agent/ricin/facts.asp>;, someone who has ingested “a significant amount” will develop vomiting and diarrhea within the first 6-12 hours; other symptoms of ricin poisoning include hallucinations, seizures, and blood in the urine. There is no antidote for ricin but ricin exposure is not invariably fatal.

“I just had the police come pick [the letter] up,” said Keith Christensen, the manager of the Eagle, when reached by phone. Christensen had already heard about the letter from other bar owners and managers, and so he didn’t open it. “It’s probably nothing,” Christensen added, “but the economy is really screwing all the bars right now, and the last thing we need is something ramping up the not-go-out mode people seem to be in right now. It’s really freaky that someone would do something like this at a time like this.”

Christensen says he’s posted signs at the Eagle advising patrons not to leave their drinks unattended.

“The police have already come and gone,” said Roland, the manager at Madison Pub. “They collected the letter and that’s about it. I don’t think it’s anything to worry about it.” Roland admitted to being unnerved by the letter at first.

“But after the initial ‘what?’, it’s like *whatever*.”

A letter also arrived in *The Stranger*’s offices, addressed to the attention of “Obituaries.” The letter’s author said the paper should “be prepared to announce the deaths of approximately 55 individuals all of whom were patrons of the following establishments on a Saturday in January.” The listed bars are: the Elite, Neighbours, Wild Rose, the Cuff, Purr, the Eagle, R Place, Re-bar, CC’s, Madison Pub, and the Crescent. “I could take this moment to launch into a diatribe about my indignation towards the gay community,” the letter concludes, “however, I think the deaths will speak for themselves.”

Alison, Luying, and Tippett, local promoters and DJs who do nights at various bars around town, came up with the idea of
organizing a pub crawl for this Friday night to show support for the bars that were threatened.

Carla at Re-bar added that, as distressing as the letter was, she was pleased with the response from the community.

“Everyone is calling each other, everyone’s got each other’s backs.”

www.bashbacknews.wordpress.com

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The Food Pornographer

Posted on 06 January 2009 by lainie

With a name like that, and a tagline that goes “Food at its porniest”, you should know what to expect of The Food Pornographer (TFP)’s blog. Droolsome photos await you at her website.

Rocket, feta and olive pizza

(Photo taken from The Food Pornographer’s post, Friday pizza lunch)

TFP’s based in Perth, and yes, since I’m pimping her out on this website, there’s little point in delaying the obligatory “she’s a queer blogger!” announcement. With a (lucky, lucky, lucky) female partner known as Jac on TFP’s blog, mentions of their relationship do appear every so often, as do other aspects of her personal life.

The reason I’m writing about TFP, and my favourite aspect of her website, is this: Bento. It’s a category dedicated to the bento box sets she makes for herself and Jac. Here’s an excerpt from one of her recent Bento posts:

My bento note for Jac, below. Jac told me later she was having a really crappy day at work that day, but when she opened her lunch and read her note, it made her feel happy – she said it made her think “work may be crappy, but the rest of my life is good”. Knowing that the note had that effect made me happy. :)

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(Photo and text taken from The Food Pornographer’s post, Monday bento – sandwiches)

From what I’ve seen, every bento sex (wow, Freudian typo) set comes with three courses. Usually a salad, a main meal, and fruits – very healthy stuff. And a note to Jac. I know, it’s so loving, feel-good, colourful and wholesome looking.

Because it’s primarily a food blog, some of her readers take time to catch on to the lesbian angle of her relationship with Jac. You can see how TFP deals with a homophobic reader in her 2006 post The sting in the tail. TFP can be quite feisty — here she is standing up for herself again, over intellectual property.

The Food Pornographer – not a “queer” blog, but hey. Check out those awesome bento boxes.

Ps: Unless I’m mistaken, TFP’s family came from Malaysia (but is now based in Australia).

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Marriage and Racism and Queers, Oh My!

Posted on 02 January 2009 by pagarmerah

from UltraViolet, December 2008
(www.lagai.org)

It is no secret that we in LAGAI – Queer Insurrection, like many other grassroots queer activists, are not big advocates of gay marriage. As with queers in the military, we think the overall political institution is wrong, and therefore we should not be struggling to have an equal place in it. Through legal marriage, the state coerces people into nuclear families, statistically the most dangerous place in the country, through a system of rewards and punishments. People’s rights in society, whether to health care or immigration should not be affected by the type of relationship they are or are not in. We wish the energy that goes into gay marriage could instead go into the other issues that affect us all, like making queer youth safe in schools and on the streets, providing economic support for queers and all people, and building a society where people’s needs are met, and we are free to live and love as we choose.

However, we opposed proposition 8. Proposition 8 wasn’t about the de-establishment of marriage, it was plain and simple about homophobia, or the maintenance of heterosexual privilege, however you want to call it. It was about religion controlling access to benefits of what is supposed to be a secular state. So we were appalled to see the No on 8 ads put on by the “Human Rights Campaign” (HRC) and other mainstream gay groups, that at best missed the point and were ineffective, and at worst were racist. No On 8 never showed the diversity of gay people who wanted to be married and they never talked about the impact of denying these rights on how queers perceive themselves and their place in society.

The last ads were, instead, appropriative of the history of people of color in the u.s. They equated the history of slavery and the fight for civil rights for African Americans, the internment of Japanese residents and citizens, and the struggle for justice for Latino workers with the struggle for legal recognition of gay marriage. White Europeans exterminated millions of Native Americans, and killed at least two million Africans who were abducted and thrown in the holds of ships to be sold as slaves. Slavery was legally maintained for over 200 years. White supremacy was maintained through terrorism (including lynching), as well as law. Legally enforced segregation persisted until the 1960′s. Although nominally able to vote after the Civil War, African Americans were effectively disenfranchised everywhere in the u.s., and legally disenfrancised in much of the south. The Civil Rights movement was about overturning this systematic legal oppression of African Americans, and thousands of people were injured and hundreds of people lost their lives in that struggle.

It is absurd to casually equate this experience with the experience of not getting state recognition for a marriage.

Racism is Not Over

Starting in the 1960′s pollsters have been asking white and Black americans about their views on racism in America. For example, in December 2006, a CNN poll found that 49 percent of Black respondents said that racism is a serious problem, and an additional 35 percent said it was “somewhat serious.” Compare that to 18 percent of whites who thought it was a serious problem, (while 48 percent at least thought it was “somewhat serious”). This only a year after the federal government abandoned tens of thousands of Black people in Louisiana and Mississippi to die in flood waters, or to beg for help by the side of the road or in a filthy and and overcrowded sports arena.

It is beyond the ability of this statement to address all of the forms and examples of racism against people of color in this country. We just want to say that racism is not over. It is still the very root and core of u.s. society, as is the heterosexual nuclear family.

Perhaps one of the most offensive manifestations of racism in the Prop 8 aftermath is the statement, seen on signs, and now as the front page of the Advocate, “Gay is the New Black.” It is amazing how much wrong can be put into five words. It seems to imply that either Black people are gone, or possibly that Black people are no longer oppressed, because otherwise how could anyone be the “new” Black? It clearly negates the existence, and certainly the oppression of Black gay people. As we said above, it appropriates African American history.

Let’s get it clear, it wasn’t Black people who created Prop 8, it wasn’t Black people who funded Prop 8, and it wasn’t Black people who made Prop 8 win. The vast majority of people who voted for Prop 8 were white. Black people make up only 6 to 10 percent of the California electorate. The CNN exit poll on which the media built the idea that African Americans were responsible for Prop 8 winning was based on 154 Black voters.

The media, including the left media, is titillated by the “conflict” between Black people and gays just as they have been by the “conflict” between Jewish and Black people for decades. Democracy Now has had more gay content since Prop 8 than perhaps in its entire history. We hear on KPFA and Public Radio that white gay people have never done anything to support struggles against racism, and we know that isn’t true. We hear that no queer people of color support gay marriage, and we know that isn’t true either. The impression is given that the people of color who voted for Prop 8 weren’t doing it because they were homophobic, but because they were angry at the racism of the No on 8 ads or because they are generally anti-marriage, and we think that’s not true either. Because there are better ways of handling this contradiction than by participating in a vote that brings out the homophobia in all communities, and particularly places queer people of color at risk.

The mainstream gay organizations, particularly the HRC, waged this campaign as they have waged all others, completely divorced from the community they claim to represent, hiring ad agencies and conducting focus groups, putting out single message bullet points (“It’s unfair. It’s wrong”). We have heard that ads were made and not used with diverse gay couples explaining why they wanted to be married. Probably some of those ads would have been more persuasive, but we will never know.

We still oppose Prop 8, and we are glad that the mainstream civil rights organizations, Asian Pacific American Legal Center, Mexican American Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Equal Justice Society, California NAACP and the NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. filed a petition on November 14 seeking to overturn Prop 8 on the basis that permitting a majority vote to eliminate rights for any group of people threatens the rights of every minority. “We would be making a grave mistake to view Proposition 8 as just affecting the LGBT community,” said Eva Paterson, president of the Equal Justice Society. “If the Supreme Court allows Proposition 8 to take effect, it would represent a threat to the rights of people of color and all minorities.”

Unfortunately, queer liberationists, and other progressive queers have a very low profile in both the straight and left media. On most issues, on any day, KPFA would rather put on the HRC than LAGAI or Gay Shame. Even though the HRC supports sweatshops, and sold out trannies on ENDA. But it is not fair to impute the history of the HRC to the many queers — queers of color and white queers — who fought in the civil rights movement, and continue to fight racism in our communities and elsewhere.

The campaign against 8 will move forward into the courts, and we can only hope the courts overturn it, because frankly we were sick of the gay marriage issue 10 years ago. But no matter how the court case goes, it is important that queer communities address the racism that has boiled to the surface in the Prop 8 aftermath.

We will never achieve equality as LGBT people until we join all the struggles for justice and liberation and against racism and class oppression. We need to honor and name the unique histories of queer people of color, not write them out of history, and out of the present for that matter.

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